A book was released recently by Christian author that talks
about religious abuse and offers an 11-step program of recovery from it.
Jack Watts, author of Recovering from Religious Abuse: 11
Steps to Spiritual Freedom, says that although clergy sexual abuse has received
wide media attention, what is less spoken of, and barely acknowledged by the
church, is religious abuse, The Christian Post said.
Watts told The Christian Post that religious abuse involves
“the mistreatment of a person by someone in a position of spiritual authority,
resulting in the diminishing of that person’s sense of well-being and growth –
both spiritually and emotionally.”
Religious abuse also involves “misuse of Scripture that
harms a person’s relationship with God,” Watts told The Christian Post, adding,
“Probably the best definition of religious abuse is if you feel like you have
been abused, you have, [and] millions say they have been.”
More
prevalent, less identified
Watts told The Christian Post that verbal and emotional
abuse in the church is more prevalent, but less often identified, than sexual
abuse. In his website, he describes it as oftentimes more rooted in a
legalistic approach to the gospel. It takes a heavy toll on its victims.
Watts says in his website, “Most abused Christian’s lead
half-lives, consumed with anger, bitterness, shame, and disillusionment. They
question whether the best years of their lives have already passed, hoping they
haven’t but suspecting they have. They are prone to depression and acting-out
behavior, including over eating, over spending, alcoholism, drug addiction,
pornography and promiscuity.”
In describing the dynamics of spiritual abuse
Watts says in his website that oftentimes, the religious abuser blames the
victim for the emotional and psychological damage that the victim experiences.
Watts says in his website, “Worst of all, the
mistreated person comes to believe that his or her abusers are correct.” This
enhances the guilt feelings in the victim and drives him further away from God.
“It’s a vicious, destructive downward spiral.”
Least discussed
Watts
told The Christian Post that oftentimes people are disengaged with the church
because they have questions or different ideas. Because of this, the church cuts
them off.
Watts
told The Christian Post, “Once shunned, they go off and are quickly forgotten.
So instead of leaving the 99 that are saved and going after the one that is
lost, they’ve allowed the people that are lost to become so great that they now
constitute 12 percent of the population.”
Watts’
book is published by Simon and Schuster and can be found in Barnes & Noble,
but not in LifeWay Christian bookstore. Watts told The Christian Post, “My
guess is they don’t like that I’m calling them on their stuff. I am, in the
evangelical world, the Nathan (the prophet in the Old Testament who confronted
King David about his sin).”
Personal
experience
Watts draws on his own experience of religious abuse,
writing in his website, “The first inkling of the severity of my psychological
damage came when I went shopping for a motorcycle, which I needed for
transportation. There were two good choices. Being a little confused about
which to purchase, I remember asking myself, Who is going to tell me which
one to buy?”
That was when he realized how dependent he had become on his church elders for making decisions, amid a community where
“acting independently” was viewed as rebelliousness.
Spiritual healing
Watts says in his 11 step program, among other things, that one has to recognize that God is not the abuser, The Christian Post said.
Other things one must do, according to his website, is to share one’s experience with a trusted friend, ask God to change what he wishes and submit one’s pain to God for healing.
Forgiveness is required. Watts wrote on his website, “Because God forgives us as we forgive others, I forgive my abusers.” Finally, he said one has to “make a commitment to nurture [one’s] relationship with God, asking him to reveal his will and to give [one] power to obey.”





