By David Yep
Nobody’s perfect. You won’t be a perfect friend and your friends won’t be perfect either….
A couple days ago I really hurt a friend. The strange thing is, I am almost sure it was more painful for me than it was for him.
It was unintentional. It was a lack of reflection. I wasn’t even aware.
I could expect him to be a little more understanding, a little more patient, a little more forgiving.
But that doesn’t matter. The point is, it deeply hurt my friend, to the point where he wrote me: “my trust has been broken”.
For someone who tries so hard to value friendship, that was a tough pill to swallow. I really suffered; compassion, from the latin “con+passio”: suffer with. What could I say? What could I do? I said I was sorry but when trust is broken, trust is broken.
I prayed. And had a guilty conscience.
And suddenly a thought came to me: of course I’m going to mess up. I’m a friend, and I try to be a good one. But there is only one “amigo que nunca falla”, “friend who never fails you”. I looked at Christ and I was reminded of the best Friend ever.
Looking at the crucifix, I thought of how he lived that which he preached: “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for a friend.” That’s my friend, that’s my best friend. As hard as I try, I will never be a perfect friend, but I don’t have to be. That’s His privilege.
As we approach Holy Week, we are faced with the best example of friendship ever. Everything we can say in a blog or that can be written in a song or a book is just a reflection of that which he lived before us.
You want to know what friendship is? Look at the cross. You want the perfect role model of friendship? There’s only One.
You won’t be a perfect friend and your friends won’t be perfect either, except for one.